THE TENNIS PARENT’S BIBLE:
A Comprehensive Survival Guide to Becoming a World Class Tennis Parent or (Coach)
TABLE OF CONTENTS
PART ONE: How to be a World Class Tennis Parent
- Nurturing a Plan
- Developing a Family Philosophy
- Choosing a Parental Style
- Cultivating Life Lessons
- Understanding the Parental Objective
- Identifying the Levels of Competitive Tennis
- Considering the Economics of Tennis
- Establishing Expectations and Guidelines
- Listening
- Mandatory Monthly Video and Pizza Night Meetings
PART TWO: Understanding Talent
- What is Talent?
- How to Stimulate Your Young Talent?
- How is Talent Measured?
- How Do We Manage Talent?
PART THREE: The 50Top Tennis Parent Blunders &
- Ignoring your Child’s Brain & Body Type
- Managing Without Guidance
- Being an Unaccountable Parent
- Underestimating the Success Formula
- Avoiding Nurturing Character
- Encouraging Dependency
- Talking Economics Before /After a Match
- Thinking Perfect Strokes Are Mandatory
- Managing Without a “Hollywood” Script
- Ignoring Off Court Training, Proper Nutrition and Hydration
MAINTAINING POSITIVE COMMUNICATION
- Playing Them Up Too Soon
- Not Acknowledging Your Child’s Efforts
- Keeping Them on the Tournament Trail
- Talking at Visual Learners
- Parents Word’s Not Matching Their Actions
- Ignoring Your Non-Verbal Communication
- Being Arrogant to Lower Ranked Players and Their Parents
- Criticizing Other Players
- Talking about Your Child’s Peers
- Being In- Flexible
- Under Valuating the Importance of Life Skills
- Neglecting Pre Match Routines
- Refusing to Play Them Down, When it Might Pump Them Up
- Forgetting They Must Be Present to Win
- Watching Their Matches Vs Charting and Video Taping
- Expecting Your Child to Win Their First Few Big Events
- Worrying About Things Beyond Your Control
- Overlooking Goal Setting
- Avoiding Outcome Oriented Questions and Negative Remarks
- Focusing Only on Aptitude and Overlooking Attitude
- Assuming Your Teen is Organized and Accountable
- Misunderstanding Choking Under Stress
- Misunderstanding Panicking Under Stress
- Freaking Them Out Before a Final
- Postponing Happiness
- Not Seeing Stumbling Blocks as Stepping Stones
- Perfectionism
- Focusing Only on Strokes
- Believing Quantity of Court Time is Quality Court Time
- Neglecting the Change Over and Between Point Rituals
- Ignoring Their B and C Game Plans
- Overlooking The Pain Principle
- Assuming That Tennis Speed is Only Foot Speed
- Not Having an Entourage
- Being Oblivious to Periodization
- Neglecting Smart Work
- Encouraging One Set Wonders
- Putting Them in the Crowd to Get Ahead of the Crowd
- Believing Weekly Lessons are Enough
- Going into Battle Unprepared
PART FOUR: Common Questions & Solutions
- How do we find the right professional?
- A tennis academy has offered us a scholarship. Should we take it?
- Mental & Emotional myths of junior competition
- What does a top player’s weekly schedule look like?
- How do we plan our child’s tournament schedule?
- In scheduling practice sets, what should my daughter focus on?
- My mom only wants me to play with better players then goes psycho when I lose. Is that right?
- Even after a practice set, my dad asks me “Did you win?”
- Should my son copy Nadal?
- How come so many great juniors never make it?
MAKING WISER CHOICES
- How should my son handle cheaters?
- How do we help our son overcome his on court anger?
- How do we spot tennis burn out?
- Is high school tennis right for my son?
- My son says I’m negative. How do I push…nicely?
- My husband wants it more than my son. Can you talk to him?
- Is my child a contender or pretender?
- My son watches Tennis Channel all day. Is this helping?
- What are my child’s chances of going pro?
- My daughter continually makes bad choices. She sabotages herself. Is this a stage?
- My daughter seems to self destructs every tournament. Can you help?
PARENT AND PLAYER ACCOUNTABILITY
- Does my child need mental training?
- Why does my child play great in practice, horrible in matches!
- My daughter lacks confidence, Why?
- There’s not enough time in the day! Help!
- Why should I chart matches?
- How would match logs help?
- What’s a daily focus journal?
- My son’s words say he wants to be a pro, his actions say something else, is this normal?
- I believe my son’s perfectionism is interfering with his performance. Can you help?
- How do you beat a moonball, pusher?
- Those strategy books seem so technical. Can you make it easy?
- My daughter struggles with consistency. Got any tricks?
- Is my daughter’s style of play right for her?
- My son is losing to players he used to beat. Can you help?
- Is the game of doubles really that important anymore?
- How do we assist our son in decreasing his unforced errors?
- Are you saying strokes are not important?
- The Painter’s Analogy
PART FIVE: Questions & Answers with ATP Star
PART SIX: Accelerating the Learning Curve
- Brain types and body types
- Organizing a quarterly schedule for practice sessions and tournaments
- Develop your child’s secondary strokes
- Practice in the manner in which your expected to perform
- Nurturing all four sides of a complete player
- Develop your child’s B and C game plans
- Cultivate proactive patterns
- Rehearse closing out sets
- Between point ritual rehearsals
- Follow your child’s customized evaluation assessment
THE FIVE ESSENTIAL PARENTAL SKILLS
- Arrange a financial budget
- Coordinate a realistic schedule
- Manage the instructors
- Establish expectations
- Systemizing the details
PART SEVEN: Customized Self Evaluation
- Organizing Your Child & Your Team
- Off Court Training
- Match Day Preparation
- On Court Physical (Primary & Secondary Strokes)
- On Court Emotional (Issues & Solutions)
- On Court Mental (Tactical & Strategic)
- Ranking Goals: Organizing your Childs Short and Long Term Goals.
CONCLUSION
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